But first, get a wife!

Hitting 30 and still single is a situation that people don't let you forget. I strongly suspect that if I posted a picture with a nun, my family and friends would leave comments like finally or hapo sawa. For a guy who isn't in a matrimonial rush, this can be exhausting.

People ask you to get a wife like it's that easy. Like you just have to walk to a market and look for the guy yelling biiibi fefte! beiya jioni! Fefte! Actually I wish there was such a guy. With options like kuna hii brown slim and quarrelsome ama you take this one, ni Mzee lakini bado inafanya. Nitakata kumi. That guy would be my hero.

Well, the truth is by the time you hit 30, you know more or less what you want in a partner. You are more choosy. In less of a hurry. You have learnt to live with yourself. You have learnt to find comfort in your own company. At least that true in my case.

However, if most of your friends are married, like me, you can't help but wonder what life would be like if you were married. With kids. Not showing up at functions and everyone asking ala, umekuja peke yako?

I have always wondered if the situation is the same for single women over 30. It's worse. They don't get a break.

Take my friend for instance. For the purposes of this blog, we shall call her Ms. Curve (because her curves keep moving whether she likes it or not). Ms. Curve is an attractive 32 year old single lady with no tolerance for mediocrity. She is a practicing medical doctor and the recent CBA ensures she pays her own bills with alot left over. She works out, has her own apartment, car and investment portfolio. The only sponsor she needs is spiritual.

So, why isn't she married, I ask her. Her reply is slightly insulting. She says there are no intelligent men left. She isn't ready to settle for less. I know, I know, by now you are probably thinking that the only bwana she will get with that attitude, is bwana yesu. You couldn't be further from the truth.

Ms. Curve has worked for everything she has. She is comfortable with who she is and wouldn't want now to get some overly controlling guy who will definitely mess her mojo. She leaves when she wants and gets back home when she wants. She flies life solo, but in first class. I respect that. I wish everyone did.

She further explains that contrary to what society dictates, marriage is not for everyone. If you are married and feel that you would have been happier alone, then tough luck. You plunged in too fast. I can't help but nod in agreement.

I have no doubt that Ms. Curve will find her prince one day. Maybe that independence she values so much will require a sidekick someday. However, that day isn't today. Society should give her a break. Just like me, she is in no hurry. Just enjoying every minute of this self awareness journey.

So, if you are at that age in your life where your parents are seriously considering an arranged marriage, don't fret. Just chill out and enjoy being in a relationship with yourself. At least in that arrangement, not even death can separate you from yourself.

But if you feel like time is running out, hit me up and all hook you up with Ms. Curve. Just make sure your intelligence measures up.

Enjoy your day.